Negative emotions

Negative emotions can be traced to an underlying fearful belief… read on www.drzari.com

What you perceive as reality is the reflection of your internal dialogue -0 it is just like seeing your face in the mirror.  So if you don’t like the result you can change your thinking process.

The first step towards changing your behavior is to change your beliefs.  You must search deep within yourself to find what is blocking you from being fit or living a life of sobriety or managing relationships successfully.

Your beliefs influence your thoughts and emotions which in turn create your experiences.  Beliefs are the result of your current life programming which includes your life experiences, your parents’ influence, your peers’ your social status and your community.  It is the same for children.  Your core beliefs are central to your success in your career and personal life.
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A variety of factors are related to obesity: these are divided into

controllable and uncontrollable factors:

Controllable factors: Nutrition, exercise, lifestyle change,

eating habits, environmental factors, craving and emotional

brain, and your belief and motivation.

Behind your ability to control these factors are: genetic makeup

and the metabolic disorders.

It is interesting to note that there is no relationship between

your willpower and your weight. But there is a relationship

between your motivation and your weight.

You can start working with controllable factors such as changing your eating habits and including exercise in your regimen.

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What happened to etiquette and manners?

So much of what we expect of children and teens relates back to conscientious parenting.  It is evident when I am introduced to children and teens whether or not they have been trained in proper introductions.  As a psychologist, I am aware of the body posture, the vocal clarity, the eye contact and the handshake or specific response when meeting a child.

Teachers and parents used to place at least some importance on etiquette.  But if it’s missing in a child with whom you are in a position to counsel or teach, it’s well within the scope of your expertise to teach children how to have manners, the proper way to speak to adults and emphasis on trying to remember the names of people when greeting them.

Teaching children and holding them accountable for courteous behavior and deportment always helps them better integrate with others in all types of situations.
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How do you help a child make a wise decision?

When children are young, we readily and easily help them make healthy and safe choices and the best among us teach them why each choice is unwise or wise.  However, once the child is a teenager, we increasingly back off, often letting the consequences of their actions teach the principles.

Big mistake!  The prefrontal cortex (the center for executive functioning = CEO of brain) is still developing and maturing up to age 22-25.  It is necessary for good judgment, organization, impulse control and solving problems.

They are not adults and even young adults need guidance through decision-making.  Children need to have a responsible adult maintain continue the guidance on helping them think for themselves and draw their own conclusions when they’re old enough to think logically.  It is a big part of building self-esteem.

Zari Alipour, Ph.D.
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Do your children do anything in their daily lives for others?  I’m not talking about their chores, their school homework or their daily responsibilities as members of the family.  I’m talking about activities that help others, that serve those in need of help such as some type of charity?

Discuss the options with your children.  What are they willing to give of themselves in order to make the lives of others easier?  I learned from one author that there are four ways of making contributions to others:

 
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1. The gift of their thinking:  Is there an organization that can benefit from their ideas and their best thinking?  Cub scouts, boy scouts, after school programs and social clubs are natural places for children to express their thoughts and ideas.  I volunteer for several organizations and my best contribution is my best thinking!

Are you informed about drug use in your community or in the school where you work or where your child attends?  If not, the answers are at your local police station and/or online.  There are community resources in place to help you stay informed.

If you remain ignorant or uninformed either due to your daily work schedule or other personal interests, you stand at-risk for an unpleasant discovery down the line. You may be in denial about your child’s drug or substance use particularly if you smoke, drink alcohol excessively or use other drugs, make excuses and deny your own use.

Many well-intentioned adults and parents feel ambushed with the discovery of their child’s drug use.  They often proudly state that they allow their child to have his/her own privacy behind their bedroom door, never bothering to look in drawers, under mattresses or in recessed areas of closets.  This is either because they don’t want to know or are in denial about the dangers involved.
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Are you informed about drug use in your community or in the school where you work or where your child attends?  If not, the answers are at your local  library , school counselor,  police station and/or online.  There are community resources in place to help you stay informed.

If you remain ignorant or uninformed either due to your daily work schedule or other personal interests, you stand at-risk for an unpleasant discovery down the line. You may be in denial about your child’s drug or substance use particularly if you smoke, drink alcohol excessively or use other drugs, make excuses and deny your own use.

Many well-intentioned adults and parents feel ambushed with the discovery of their child’s drug use.  They often proudly state that they allow their child to have his/her own privacy behind their bedroom door, never bothering to look in drawers, under mattresses or in recessed areas of closets.  This is either because they don’t want to know or are in denial about the dangers involved.
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Whether you are a teacher, counselor or parent, the children in your life deserve the best that you have to give.  I’d like to suggest that you give some of these gifts:

 
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• The gift of encouragement:  I believe that there is a best in you that you can achieve.
• The gift of attention:  I will watch out for you and be there for you.
• The gift of example:  I will be a model of integrity, honesty and love.
• The gift of patience:  I have the time for you that you need.  I am here for you.
• The gift of help:  I will do everything in my power to assist you whenever things become too difficult for you to do alone.
• The gift of discipline:  I will set age-appropriate limits for you and I will be consistent in holding you accountable.

Are you in a position to influence the decision of a college student to join a fraternity or sorority?

There are things you can do to help young adults make that decision.  But the ability to discern appropriate and valuable friends comes long before college.  Relationships created in sororities and fraternities can have long lasting consequences, some good – others not so good.  If a child has been active in being able to determine what worthy friendships are, they are much more able to make a decision regarding relationships in college.

A genuine friend keeps a promise, follows through with what he or she says, sacrifices for the other, respects and honors, is courteous, builds character, and is a positive connection in helping one realize their dreams.

 
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Most overweight and obese people know the value of nutrition and
exercise. But they are unable to follow the program. They fail because
of problems that are subconscious, they may not even be aware of it.
The commercial weight loss programs unable to address this issue.
But if you are able to own the responsibility for your problem, and get
the proper support you can resolve your issues permanently and become successful with the management of your weight.

You can send your question I will address your questions every Sundays.