How do you help a child make a wise decision?
When children are young, we readily and easily help them make healthy and safe choices and the best among us teach them why each choice is unwise or wise. However, once the child is a teenager, we increasingly back off, often letting the consequences of their actions teach the principles.
Big mistake! The prefrontal cortex (the center for executive functioning = CEO of brain) is still developing and maturing up to age 22-25. It is necessary for good judgment, organization, impulse control and solving problems.
They are not adults and even young adults need guidance through decision-making. Children need to have a responsible adult maintain continue the guidance on helping them think for themselves and draw their own conclusions when they’re old enough to think logically. It is a big part of building self-esteem.
Zari Alipour, Ph.D.
Making Wise Choices in a Disruptive Age
Dr. Zari is a psychologist for adolescents and adults. She teaches adolescents how to make decisions that are in their best interests and empowers teachers, counselors and parents with the words and accountability tools that reinforce healthy choices.
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