There are 4 keys to surviving the college years drug-free:

1. Make a commitment to your dream and focus on keeping your dream alive.

2. Make a decision that you aren’t going to let drugs and alcohol interfere with your education.

3. Find alternatives to fraternities and sororities if either of your parents are/were addicts.

4. Select friends who are committed to their short and long goals.

Zari Alipour, Ph.D.
Making Wise Choices in a Disruptive Age

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Choosing friends wisely
Are you in a position to influence the decision of a college student to join a fraternity or sorority?

There are things you can do to help young adults make that decision. But the ability to discern appropriate and valuable friends comes long before college. Relationships created in sororities and fraternities can have long lasting consequences, some good – others not so good. If a child has been active in being able to determine what worthy friendships are, they are much more able to make a decision regarding relationships in college.

A genuine friend keeps a promise, follows through with what he or she says, sacrifices for the other, respects and honors, is courteous, builds character, and is a positive connection in helping one realize their dreams.

Often the reasons for joining a particular organization have more to do with risky behavior than stable behavior. Past decisions regarding friends are a good indicator of future choices. Since an adult is more than likely going to be in the position to pay for expensive member organizations, it is well within that adult’s responsibility to assess and evaluate any organization in which a child is interested.

Zari Alipour, Ph.D.
Making Wise Choices in a Disruptive Age
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How do you help a child make a wise decision?
When children are young, we readily and easily help them make healthy and safe choices and the best among us teach them why each choice is unwise or wise. However, once the child is a teenager, we increasingly back off, often letting the consequences of their actions teach the principles.

Big mistake! The frontal cortex (the center for executive functioning = CEO of brain) is still developing and maturing up to age 22. It is necessary for good judgment, organization, impulse control and solving problems.

They are not adults and even young adults need guidance through decision-making. Children need to have a responsible adult maintain continue the guidance on helping them think for themselves and draw their own conclusions when they’re old enough to think logically. It is a big part of building self-esteem.

Zari Alipour, Ph.D.
Making Wise Choices in a Disruptive Age
www.DrZari.com
Zari@DrZari.com

Subject:  Little exercise tips that can change your life

Try these suggestions:

• Walk up or down the stairs instead of taking the escalator or elevator.
• Take a 10-minute walk right after each meal.
• Select the parking space farthest from where you’re going.
• Walk to do your small errands.
• Ride a bicycle to do your small errands.
• Purchase a workout video for your home if you insist on not going to the gym.
• Do some exercise or activity where you can work up a sweat.

You don’t have to begun-ho about exercising, but you do have to keep moving.  You’ll feel better and your family will notice the difference.

Zari Alipour, Ph.D.

Making Wise Choices in a Disruptive Age

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Zari@DrZari.com

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Carbohydrates are source of energy. They are easily accessible,

and body can break them down and use them quickly.

There are two classes of carbohydrates: Simple and complex.

Simple carbohydrates these carbs are broken down quickly thus raise your blood sugar include sugar, honey, and fruit juices and……

Complex carbohydrates are better source of energy they are broken down to into glucose and digested. Some complex carbs are a high source of B vitamins and iron, these vitamins are lost during processing they are high source of fiber as well, include corn, grain products, wheat pasta, brown rice, peas and legume ………

Pay attention to the glycemic index:

Fruit high glycemic indices are carrots, bananas, grapes, pineapples, watermelon, and cherries.

You have to be cautious and select carbohydrates with lower glycemic index:

Vegetables Fruits

Baked potatoes 85            Watermelon 72

Mashed potatoes 73         Pineapple 66

Carrots 71                             Raisins 64

White Bread 70                  Dark Rye 76

Cream of Wheat 74           Sourdough 57

Beets 64                                Banana 55

Sweet potatoes 54            Kiwi 52

Peas 49                                 Orange 44

Simplify your life!

Is there lots of activity in your life where you’re beginning to wonder if it’s too much?  Are you stressing out in ordering to meet the demands of all of the activities you’ve chosen for yourself and or for your children?

There are ways to simplify your life.  Try these:

Get rid of clutter

• Set your own pace, rather than follow the demands of others.
• Reduce the time you spend watching television.
• Reduce the time you spend in front of your computer.
• Take 10- minute meditations throughout your day.
• Do only one thing at a time. Multitasking causes an increase in errors and unclear communication, especially with children.
• Get rid of clutter.

Analyze what really matters during the day.  Nothing matters until you make it matter.  It’s your choice.

Zari Alipour, Ph.D.

Making Wise Choices in a Disruptive Age

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Zari@DrZari.com

Negative emotions

Negative emotions can be traced to an underlying fearful belief… read on www.drzari.com

What you perceive as reality is the reflection of your internal dialogue -0 it is just like seeing your face in the mirror.  So if you don’t like the result you can change your thinking process.

The first step towards changing your behavior is to change your beliefs.  You must search deep within yourself to find what is blocking you from being fit or living a life of sobriety or managing relationships successfully.

Your beliefs influence your thoughts and emotions which in turn create your experiences.  Beliefs are the result of your current life programming which includes your life experiences, your parents’ influence, your peers’ your social status and your community.  It is the same for children.  Your core beliefs are central to your success in your career and personal life.

My point is… if you cannot recognize that something is blocking your success, you will not be able to change it.  Your emotions are a form of energy within your body that generates your state of being.

Zari Alipour, Ph.D.

Making Wise Choices in a Disruptive Age

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Zari@DrZari.com

A variety of factors are related to obesity: these are divided into

controllable and uncontrollable factors:

Controllable factors: Nutrition, exercise, lifestyle change,

eating habits, environmental factors, craving and emotional

brain, and your belief and motivation.

Behind your ability to control these factors are: genetic makeup

and the metabolic disorders.

It is interesting to note that there is no relationship between

your willpower and your weight. But there is a relationship

between your motivation and your weight.

You can start working with controllable factors such as changing your eating habits and including exercise in your regimen.

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What happened to etiquette and manners?

So much of what we expect of children and teens relates back to conscientious parenting.  It is evident when I am introduced to children and teens whether or not they have been trained in proper introductions.  As a psychologist, I am aware of the body posture, the vocal clarity, the eye contact and the handshake or specific response when meeting a child.

Teachers and parents used to place at least some importance on etiquette.  But if it’s missing in a child with whom you are in a position to counsel or teach, it’s well within the scope of your expertise to teach children how to have manners, the proper way to speak to adults and emphasis on trying to remember the names of people when greeting them.

Teaching children and holding them accountable for courteous behavior and deportment always helps them better integrate with others in all types of situations.

Zari Alipour, Ph.D.

Making Wise Choices in a Disruptive Age

www.DrZari.com

Zari@DrZari.com

How do you help a child make a wise decision?

When children are young, we readily and easily help them make healthy and safe choices and the best among us teach them why each choice is unwise or wise.  However, once the child is a teenager, we increasingly back off, often letting the consequences of their actions teach the principles.

Big mistake!  The prefrontal cortex (the center for executive functioning = CEO of brain) is still developing and maturing up to age 22-25.  It is necessary for good judgment, organization, impulse control and solving problems.

They are not adults and even young adults need guidance through decision-making.  Children need to have a responsible adult maintain continue the guidance on helping them think for themselves and draw their own conclusions when they’re old enough to think logically.  It is a big part of building self-esteem.

Zari Alipour, Ph.D.

Making Wise Choices in a Disruptive Age

Zari@DrZari.com

Dr. Zari is a psychologist for adolescents and adults.  She teaches adolescents how to make decisions that are in their best interests and empowers teachers, counselors and parents with the words and accountability tools that reinforce healthy choices.